This article was originally published in The Daily Herald's 2016 Wedding Special.
Don’t deny it. At one point, we’ve all been that single friend moonlighting as a relationship expert. You know, casually observing (read: judging) other couples. But how can we improve our odds when navigating the marriage minefield? If hearing “we’re doing premarital counselling” has you feeling “some type of way”, relax. We’ve debunked some premarital counselling myths.
1. Just the mention of counselling signals trouble in paradise.
Your lover disengaging in your relationship is the red flag signalling all is a lost. The opposite of love is indifference. Agreeing to counselling means agreeing to build your relationship through intentional discussion and activities. You may also know this as dating. Constant disagreements during the sessions and unresolved issues on your wedding day? Premarital counselling is the time to improve your communication and conflict resolution skills.
2. Premarital counselling is only for engaged couples.
Religious organizations help members form meaningful connections, regardless of life stage. Counselling for couples thinking about becoming engaged is trending. It’s pre-premarital counselling! The surprise proposal and instant acceptance is not the highest ideal. A bombardment of queries about your upcoming nuptials is stressful. This pressure may involuntarily push some down the aisle, and into unstable relationships. Try pre-premarital counselling. Be sure you’ve discussed all the hard questions before popping or promising anything.
The full article is available to The Daily Herald subscribers. It’s the leading newspaper in the northeastern Caribbean.
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